Throughout my life, I’ve always seemed to rotate girlfriends and I never really understood why. My male friendships ALWAYS lasted longer and I was always able to level with them in a different capacity than with females. With my guy friends I found a lot less drama, a lot less gossiping, believe it or not deeper convos, the list goes on; some of my male friends I’ve had since I was 14 (now 29) and a few of my guy friends from when I was a pre-teen I still keep in contact with, but mainly through social media. My female girlfriends however, literally dropped like flies. Why is that?
As I get older, and more successful, I have come to the realization that I simply have different interests and run in a different lane than my past girlfriends. How did I come to that conclusion? Simple, I do have girlfriends that I’ve had for years, but to be honest, they are all entrepreneurial and have goals that supersedes the cliche working mom & wife. Let me be clear, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING TO HAVE A CAREER WHILE BEING A MOM AND WIFE (I can only imagine how many people are saying, ‘what a bitch’ right about now)! But there is a difference between those women who want the above, and the women who want the family + career + BUSINESS EMPIRE.
When I was planning my wedding, so many of the vendors would say things to me such as “I’m sure you’ve dreamt of this day your whole life” or “what have you dreamt this day to be like” and that was when I first realized, I honestly never dreamt about my wedding, kids, etc.; I used to dream about being well known as a successful business woman. As the years went on, I graduated college, met my now husband, my dreams shifted to, yes, being a mom and having a career, but also I still retained that desire for success, creating a business so my family would be taken care of for life. Financial freedom doesn’t necessarily make you happy, actually it could make you miserable due to all the sacrifices you’ll have to make to get there, but it will make your life a little less stressful in your latter years and give you the opportunity to enjoy our family and children.
Many of my friends and colleagues currently are men, and I love them all in different ways. From my business partner in real estate, to the guys at the banks I party with, to the title guys, web developers, photographers and the list goes on and on. Honestly, I frequently find myself to be the only one in the group in high heels and a bra, but I’m not perceived to be inferior to my male counterparts. I guess it’s safe to say I’m “one of them.”
In regards to my girlfriends today, who I affectionately refer to as “My Tribe”, ladies, I respect you all so much. Watching you all break through stereotypes and shatter glass ceilings, motivates and drives me to want to do more!
Through my journey you will learn how to stand out in a crowd and leave your mark in your respective fields. You’ll also get to learn a little bit about the women I’ve grown to love and respect and hopefully you’ll love them just as much I do too!